Coping with Infertility

Seek support from others.

Your spouse or partner will be your closest ally in the fertility journey, but don’t hesitate to lean on family and friends. Loved ones, even those without their own infertility issues, want to be there to help you in any way they can. Gently guide them by telling them what you need and don’t need.  Sometimes finding others who do know what the infertility struggle is like can be vital. Books, infertility websites, and in-person groups can help you gain the information and support that you need.  Therapists who specialize in fertility counseling can also be an important component of your support network.

Engage in self-care.

Add or increase activities that strengthen you emotionally. These may include exercise, meditation, hobbies, spiritual or religious practices, getting a good night’s rest, eating healthfully, spending time with pets, listening to music, diving into a great book… and the list goes on and on. While you’re adding in more things that make you feel good, be sure to eliminate or decrease activities that bring you down, whenever possible. Decreasing stress is an important strategy to conserve energy for the real challenges that lie ahead.

Live one day at a time.

Don’t let the fertility journey consume you so much that you forget all the other important things in your life, including relationships, career, and personal values. Jumping too far ahead into an unknown future is not a wise use of energy: use your emotional resources on the here-and-now. Let yourself feel joy in the moment, even if tomorrow is uncertain. Be realistic but don’t expect the worst, either: even the smallest bit of hope can carry you through the toughest challenges.